Sunday, March 25, 2007

We've updated!!

Hi everyone,

I've added three recent columns to the blog this morning. Thanks for stopping by -- and for the persistent of you, thanks for reminding me to do this!

We're well. We've finally formalized the decision to stay in Rochester until the kiddos graduate. (And by "formalize," I mean that we said it out loud!)

We're loving our spring weather. The boys have been to the skate park sans winter coats a few times this weekend.

We're thinking of selling our house, and are spending a lot of time cleaning and making trips to Goodwill as we assess our space. Some days it's exciting. Some days it just seems like a lot of unnecessary work! This morning Jen woke up and decided that it would be easier to just remodel and add on. It's not even noon yet, and she's already nixed that idea.

Jen's looking forward to heading to TRF over Spring Break to help her sister Angie set-up/open her new store -- Jack & Jill's Closet. It will be a consignment store for children's clothing and toys. And it's going to be fabulous! I'm excited.

xoxo, jen-n-jay

Jen's Column / Makeover

I have a confession. I don’t know how to put my make-up on.

I mean, I can ease some lipstick on my kisser and add mascara to my lashes before dashing out the door. That much I can do.

But I don’t know where my eyeliner is supposed to go, and I’ve never figured out how to match foundation to my skin tone.

It could be because I don’t know my “season.” Apparently this is a big deal when it comes to make-up.

When I was in eighth grade, my friend Nicole and her mom got their colors done. Once Nicole found out she was a winter, everything fell into place for her. She graduated top in our class and lives in Georgia now.

I decided it was time for me, too, to get help. I called Jill Krieger Swanson, owner of Simply Beautiful Image Consulting, and registered for the three-hour color and imaging consultation. (If you’re going to do it, you might as well do it big.)

When I arrived for my appointment, Jill set me to work filling out personality profiles. Having determined that I was indeed spontaneous, energetic and a perfectionist worrier, she set me in front of a giant mirror.
Staring at myself in a wall-sized mirror isn’t usually my idea of a fun afternoon, but it was cool to see the transformation take place as Jill layered different colored swatches over my shoulders. Blues brought out my eyes. Reds enhanced the healthy flush on my lips and cheeks. Oranges, blacks, beiges, rusts, and olives made me look sick.

Guess what 95 percent of my wardrobe consists of. For that matter, guess what I wore to the appointment? A beige shirt with rust and olive accents.

And how many of my “right colors” — the pinks and reds, blues and teals — do I own? For starters, the blue shirt I wear in my official Post-Bulletin picture is the only blue shirt I own. And the reds? I’ve been avoiding them for years. I thought they’d bring out the blotches on my face. Who knew?

Next it was time to pull out my make-up bag and critique its contents — all seven items. Poor Jill. I don’t think she knew what a novice she was dealing with until she saw the motley grouping that fell from my 1996 Clinique bonus bag. It included one black/brown mascara at the end of its life, one eyeliner — which I apply, then smear off, one concealer with the brand name worn off, one quad set of eye shadow in the wrong tones, one too-light foundation, and two lipsticks — one of which I bought on clearance and, according to Jill, that’s where it should’ve stayed.

After giving me a lesson in all things make-up and writing a comprehensive list of what colors and brands to buy, we moved on to the swimsuit portion of the consultation.

Yes, I said swimsuit.

I exited from the changing room in my two-toned blue one piece — thankful I’d remembered to shave that morning — and stood with my back to the full-length mirror as directed.

It’s one thing to model a swimsuit. It’s another to model a swimsuit in front of a full-length mirror. It’s yet another to model a swimsuit in front of a full-length mirror while an incredibly put-together woman measures you and marks said measurements on the mirror.

Fortunately, this part only lasts about five minutes.

And it does have its merit. Combined with the aforementioned personality profile, Jill used my measurements to pinpoint the styles of clothing appropriate for my personality and shape.

In fact, as I drove home that afternoon, I was armed not only with a personalized book of “warm summer” fabric swatches, but a portfolio that included everything from my best belt widths to my most appropriate jacket styles. And — lucky me — it all fits conveniently into what I now know is my grossly oversized purse.

Jen's Column / Albi

One of the questions I’m most asked by readers is this: Where do you find the time to do all the things you write about?

Well, I guess I could spend my columns waxing poetic on my action-packed days of picking Lincoln Logs off the floor and packing healthy-yet-kid-approved snacks for my grade-schooler. I could document the internal struggles I wage when deciding what to make (or, on a good day, order) for dinner.

But I’m thinking those aren’t the stories you want to read.

The truth is writing this column gives me a great excuse to try new things — things I justify because, “Hey… I could write about that!”

Harvesting new topics isn’t the only reason I make it a life goal to try new adventures and have fun.

I’ve had one particularly great teacher in the school of living life.

When I was in college, my husband’s best friend was a guy named Albi. And, Albi, my friends, was one of those people who really knew how to live. You know the type.

This was a man who was known for throwing the best parties and for being the most loyal friend. A man who could go on a joyride with friends — and end up in the Black Hills for a week. A man who, while the rest of us worried about not leaving gaps in our resumes, took off for Alaska the day after our college graduation. Because that’s what you do with life dreams. You follow them.

Through the next several years, we received regular phone calls and letters. Albi would send pictures of himself hiking in the mountains, fishing for salmon, canoeing in pristine waters.

“You guys have got to come out here,” he’d write. “It’s unbelievable.”

“We’d love to,” we agreed. “We’ll try to make it next year.”

But excuses are easy to come by. Each year we had a different one. We didn’t have the money. We didn’t have the time. We were busy planning a wedding. We were starting careers. We were saving for a house. We were stocking a nursery for our first baby.

“Next year,” we’d say. “We’ll make it next year.”

And then we got the phone call. Albi had died.

Suddenly we weren’t too busy or too poor to make the trip to Alaska. We spent eight days traveling the Kenai Peninsula — traversing the same roads Albi traveled. Visiting the same sites. Fishing in the same turquoise rivers. Memorializing him on his favorite mountaintop with his family.

And wondering why we didn’t make this trip when Albi was alive to serve as our tour guide. Kicking ourselves for not following his example of living life while it’s here to live.

It’s been nearly nine years since that first trip to Alaska. And I’ve tried to grasp more opportunities for living life since then. I don’t always succeed. It’s easy to get wrapped up in “I’m too busy” or “I’ll get to that later.”

But I try. That doesn’t mean I scurry off across the globe at a moment’s notice. That will come in time, I hope — when the kids are older. But I do take the initiative to get out and break my comfort zone with my own little adventures — whether that’s parasailing with a friend on a weekend’s getaway or stomping through puddles in my own front yard.

And, besides, sometimes even little adventures make good stories.

Jen's Column / Piano Moving

Last week, piano technician and tuner Paul Chick proved to me again why he is a man of integrity. But before I tell you why, I need to give you a little back-story.

Last year, I got a free piano.

A neighbor was moving and didn’t want the instrument in the new house.

This, of course, should’ve sent up a red flag. But I wasn’t thinking clearly, because from the moment I’d heard “free piano” I’d been playing the scenarios in my head: My children glued to my side as I taught them scales. My family lovingly gathered ‘round, singing carols. Dinner guests entertained by my masterful playing.

We drove the minivan over that night, wild with anticipation. But it quickly became apparent why our neighbors didn’t want the piano in their new house. It was chipped. The legs were twisted. It was missing the entire front portion of its wooden case.

It also became apparent that this was not a minivan job. The ancient upright would, as my four-year-old is fond of saying, squash my van “like a grape.”

Plan B: It had wheels. We lived two blocks away. We could do this.

So there I was, knocking on any house with a light on: “Do you have a few minutes?” I’d ask. “Want to help move a piano?” (A little advice: It’s imperative that you determine that people are indeed free before you tell them you need help rolling a 700-pound piano down the street.)

Ten minutes later, my husband and six neighbors who were unable to come up with an excuse were pushing the piano ever so slowly down the middle of River Court. I followed in the van, my headlights leading their way down the dark street.

Our cluster made it halfway down the first block when we were abruptly stopped. A wheel had fallen off. Determined the rolling part of our adventure wasn’t over, I ran home and returned to the scene with two dollies and my seven-year-old’s X-Men skateboard. The skateboard worked.

A block-and-a-half later — after much giggling on the ridiculousness of the situation and some photo ops (“OK, stop — you can’t stop? Well, ok, everyone look up — Brian, stop grimacing! — and smile!”), I had a piano.

It looked bigger and uglier in my living room than it had in the neighbor’s garage. But I didn’t care. As soon as the crowd dispersed, I began to play. Due to the gaping hole in the front, I was able to watch the hammers strike the strings as I launched into the only song I knew by heart anymore — my ninth grade recital piece, Invention No. 2 by Bach.

Some keys didn’t work. Some stuck. Some played entire chords. All were off key.

Still, I’d play for hours in the evenings. “I’m not making mistakes!” I’d yell to my husband over the din. “It’s the piano. Some of the keys are off!”

When my children began saying things like, “That song gives me a tummy ache,” I called Mr. Chick — who told me that fixing my piano would be like putting a new transmission in a 30-year-old, rust-bucket car. “I could do it,” he said, running his hand along the keys. “But I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night.”

That’s when I first knew Mr. Chick had integrity. But it was last week that he left me truly impressed.

A few months ago, he helped me find my piano’s replacement — a used, but infinitely prettier and better sounding model. At the time, he told me he’d come back to tune the piano once it settled into its new home. I forgot. He didn’t. He not only took the initiative to set last week’s appointment — but he even made a couple of repairs when he was done tuning.

When I asked him what I owed him, he said, “Just put a little extra money in the offering plate on Sunday.” And I will.